Valuable Lessons From Mentors and DEmentors
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Today we are going to be talking about mentors and DEmentors. Mentors are great but there is only so much they can do for us in our lives. They do point us in very good directions. They can teach us very valuable lessons and skills but many of us have an overly romanticized view of what a mentor is and the role that they provide in our lives. We want them to teach us, spend a lot of time guiding us, and validate us on the progress we are making.
When we see somebody with a skill or ability to teach us, we think they are going to fill all of those gaps we felt growing up. Oftentimes a mentor won’t fill all of those things and on top of that, they are usually expensive. They are very valuable and worth it and I highly recommend it and do it all the time but it is expensive or they require you to work hard for them as an apprentice. Oftentimes we are so focused on seeking out mentors like this that we ignore a potential and abundant source of learning in our life that you can look toward and in many areas of our lives we can find anti-mentors or DEmentors.
We discuss:
- [00:57] Mentors are great but there is only so much they can do for us in our lives.
- [02:08] Mentors are very valuable and worth it and I highly recommend it and do it all the time but it is expensive or they require you to work hard for them as an apprentice.
- [04:14] In the world of Harry Potter the DEmentors are ghost-like creatures that suck all of the goodness and happiness out of someone that is unfortunate enough to get too close to them. These creatures aren’t inherently bad.
- [05:45] By focusing on positive thoughts and emotions of the opposite of what the DEmentors left you with, you could repel them.
- [06:11] Our lives are filled with DEmentors. They are not necessarily good or bad but you don’t want to get too close to them.
- [07:35] We all have our own unique versions of DEmentors. We attract them into our lives based on our flaws, our needs, and our dynamics. Whenever we are in our lives, there is a DEmentor that is a perfect fit for our current flaws and weaknesses.
- [08:12] For most of us there is a certain subtle instinct that lets us know when we encounter these. Too often we are tricked by them, allow them to get close to us, and they wreak havoc leaving us filled with fear, anger, frustration, and helplessness.
- [09:08] If we can change our perspective on DEmentors there is an opportunity in them.
- [11:57] Your mentors point you in the direction that you want to go. You can see the DEmentors as those that do the opposite. With the opposite signal you can get clear on what you want, where you want to go, and what you need to learn.
- [13:39] We can use the guidance of the DEmentors we attract to find the opposite path.
- [15:23] The lessons that DEmentors teach us can be costly or valuable if you are aware.