The Gold in Your Gray Area Habits with Kari Schwear

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Today on the show we have Kari Schwear. Kari is an expert in helping coaches, entrepreneurs, and leaders forge new identities that help them overcome past compulsions, addiction, and limiting beliefs and really break through to their ultimate potential.

Today we are both going to be talking about some of these “gray area” habits that aren’t so bad and aren’t a big problem but are holding you back from really living the life of your dreams. We are going to talk about the cure for these habits which is forging an identity, making a declaration, and believing in a vision of who you are that is the future version and ideal version of you. Kari has lots of great insights into exactly how to create this and I am excited to share them with you because a lot of these techniques are very near and dear to my heart and my work.

We discuss:

[02:27] Kari shares his defining moment. Her story begins all the way back at age 7.
[04:10] When we declare something over our life or we declare who we want to be, we become that person.
[06:13] In her 30’s she made a decision and declared over her life that she was going to quit drinking. She became this new version of herself and that is when everything shifted. The words that we say over ourselves and our lives truly become who we really are in this world.
[08:01] Kyle shares his story of wanting to take an internship in Brazil during college.
[12:07] We as humans can simply decide what it is that we want and we start to align those things by actions and behaviors. It really comes down to our standards and our level of commitment.
[14:50] We train our unconscious mind by simply saying “I am” and then something positive after that.
[17:23] Kari shares about “gray area” drinking.
[19:47] We have multiple gray areas. We have gray areas in our relationships, careers, spiritual life, and physical health. These multiple areas that we feel less than or we are living in a place of mediocrity or complacency instead of thriving and really living to our fullest.
[25:16] Why are you doing this? Who are you currently, who were you, and who do you wish to become? Those questions create a path forward.
[26:43] It takes to rewire the way we think and believe about ourselves. It takes about 18 months to create new ways of thinking.
[28:21] Your standard for yourself is your level of commitment to yourself.
[31:03] Community is so important to support your new identity.
[35:03] It is looking at not only your physical space but the place in which you live.
[36:36] You have to have a desire to want to make a change. You have to explore your why. Your why has to be big. It has to be your anchor and grounding force, and be of deep value.
[38:23] What we do on a daily basis is everything. When we make better choices we are guaranteed to see better results. Everyday effort equals excellence and expansion.
[40:22] If you don’t like where things are right now in your life you simply decide who it is you want to be and you become it. You can make anything happen, you have the power within you.