What if the thing we spend our lives avoiding—death—could actually become one of the most powerful tools for creating a more meaningful life? In this episode of The Story Engine Podcast, I sit down with behavioral change expert and bestselling author Karen Salmansohn to explore why so many ambitious, high-achieving people resist self-help, stay trapped in “beast mode,” and keep telling themselves they’ll finally live the life they want someday. Karen shares her philosophy of moving from the “den of pleasure” into the “laboratory of growth,” embracing emotional diversity, and focusing less on success, money, and productivity and more on becoming the person you actually want to be.

We also go deep into Karen’s personal story. After her father’s death forced her to confront how much of her own life she had been postponing, she wrote his eulogy—and then wrote one for herself. That exercise became a blueprint for the life she wanted to live. We explore how mortality awareness can create urgency, how identity-based habits can change behavior, why your core values can become the “puppet master” of your habits, and how a single message her father left behind—“Everything that is not given is lost”—continues to shape the work she does today. This is a conversation about death, but ultimately, it’s about learning how to live with more courage, intention, meaning, and purpose.